I hope they always know…

How dare I tell my child (who wants me to look at the way she does a flip for the 1000th time) to hold on a minute. All because according to some post that I’ve read it will actually make them not want to talk to me ever again about the things that go on in their lives. That’s not true.

Those girls are going to love me. Some days they will love me only slightly more than they hate me. I am ok with that as long as they know that I am always a safe place for them. I will never judge them. I will always listen to them, even when they are wrong. I won’t always think they are right, but I will never make them feel like they can’t be transparent and honest about their ugly. I want them to disagree with me. I want them to make their own decisions. I want them to be fulfilled in accomplishing personal goals that no one sees.

I want them to hold someone’s heart in their hands who hurt them, but be strong enough never to hurt it back. I want them to know how valuable it is to love and not get love in return. I want them to fall in love, out of love and maybe even with the same person. I hope they never take someone for granted and I hope they never chase someone who isn’t good for them. But they will.

To my girls:

I hope you always know to call me. In the middle of the night. In the middle of the day. When you are off at college and get your heart broken. When you are at a party and make a decision to drink. Call me. I will be there. I will be there with open arms and a listening ear. I will take a red eye flight to be by your side, no matter where you are, if you need me. I will hug you tight until you let go. I promise to never let go first.

I will be there when you lose your way. I will be there when you break up with your first boyfriend.  I will be there when you are closing on your first house and need help picking out the perfect wall color.  I will be there when you find a man who completes you by adding the best parts of him to the best parts of you. I will be there when you have no idea how your life fell apart. I will be there when you have good news at 3am and can’t wait for the world to wake up to share it.

I will be there even when you don’t want me to be. I will not invade your space, but I will never stop being the voice of reason in your ear. I will teach you lessons in life, that I can only hope you consider when you are faced with challenges that, no doubt, will come. I want you to remember my words someday when you can no longer hear them. Remember every promise and every piece of advice. Do with it what you will, but never stop doing what’s right.

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